First of all I want to define “bad ass” for all to understand. Bad asses can hold their own, they defend theirs, they protects theirs and they ain’t nobodies doormat. Now I know that women are supposed to be really nice and sweet and many of you can’t see how we can maintain our nurturing tender touch and still be bad asses, but I’ll tell you…. it’s possible.

1.       1.Take a self defense class:

          I personally love kick boxing but there are tons of self defense courses from tae Kwando, jujitsu etc. and don’t limit yourself to one, master as many as possible, can’t afford classes, buy DVD’s with at home tutorials. The best thing about these disciplines is that they will give you the confidence you need when the time comes to defend yourself without turning you into a raging bully.

2.       2.Speak up!

            I am not loud by any means (Ask anyone who knows me) but I also know how to be heard when I have a point to make. Say it with authority and make them listen and don’t let anyone talk over you.

3.      3. Do what you want:


Often our lives are hijacked by overbearing individuals in our lives. Take a walk, run on the beach or enjoy the little things that give you inner peace and don’t worry too much about what others think, their concerns represent only their interests not yours.

4.       4.Don’t let you down:

      Despite what most people think, life is about bearing your own burden and not expecting help out of tough situations. Even with friends and family the truth is most times people tend to go AWOL during hard time. Strategize out of problematic situations and always save for a rainy day.

5.       5.Know yourself:

        Self knowledge is a never ending quest, as years go by you have to do a cross check because you have changed over the years, don’t lose track of who you are. Know your family history, your cultural history and your continents history and understand how others have influenced your identity and how you got to the present point in history. (I know it’s a mouth full) this will make it easier for you to make better decisions about the choices you make in life.

Being a bad ass is about being able to stand up for your interests. In a world where people are always trying to anchor their interests in our lives, we have to find a way to stand up for our own interests. Enjoy being a bad ass, and taking control of your life.